One of the most popular new sex acts for women to try is to have a squirting orgasm, although really the squirting part can be quite independent of an orgasm. Squirting, or female ejaculation, has been on the increase with its prevalence in many porn films, finding its way into its own category, both online and on DVD shelves.
Physiologically, yes. Psychologically, individually, not necessarily. Put simply, there are a number of steps to maximise your chances of squirting, starting first and foremost with understanding what it is, and how your body can get there.
What is female ejaculation?
There are mixed ideas about where female ejaculation comes from (pun intended). Essentially, it all stems from direct stimulation of the G-spot and the Skene’s glands behind it. If you’re still looking for your g-spot, it can be found about a finger’s depth inside the vagina, on the anterior wall (front side) and will feel like a soft, ridged area that swells with arousal.
What you may not already know, is the g-spot is actually contained within the clitoral network! Check out this 3D printed model of the full clitoral network or this sketch to see just how it all fits into place. When aroused, those clitoral bulbs swell and arch back towards the spine, instead of aimed at the thighs, and will be stimulated at the area known as the g-spot.
But what is it exactly that ‘squirts’ out? Nope, it’s not pee. In fact, the Skene’s glands will produce a fluid with almost the same chemical composition as prostatic fluid, sans semen.
So how can I get there?
Firstly, with patience and practise. Get well acquainted with your g-spot, ensure your kegels are firm for a greater squirt, and work out the best mood, settings, and toys to get you off like never before.
Getting in touch with your g-spot.
As described above, it’s fairly easy to find your g-spot when you know what you’re looking for. Fingers can get the job done, but if you want to save yourself (or your partner) the work, look for a good quality toy for a truly intense experience. Something simple like the Evolved Rainbow G or the Nu Sensuelle Aimii is a great way to start. For something completely different, there are some great products on offer from Lelo, Fun Factory and Zalo.
Lelo has the Ina Wave and the Mona Wave, both having a gorgeously smooth, bulbous head, but the Ina also has an external massager, a more classic ‘rabbit’ shape. The ‘Wave’ part of the name refers to the movement the insertable end does, known as a ‘come hither’ motion.
The Fun Factory Stronic G is a solid toy with a fantastic curve at the tip to massage your g-spot. What makes it stand out is the ‘stronic’, essentially a hands-free, thrusting toy.
The Zalo Queen ranks very high for those who have discovered this hidden gem (although the elegant Swarovski crystal on it is not hidden at all). Utilizing pulse wave technology, the curved tip of this pleasure device will pulse and throb on your g-spot. The Zalo Queen Set also comes with a removable sheath that when in place, acts as a clitoral stimulation toy like a Womanizer. All of this makes the Queen one seriously versatile toy!
On with the show
Now that you’re in touch and confident with hitting your g-spot, it’s time to put everything together and get on the road to squirting. Remember, it may not happen the first time, or possibly even at all, so make sure you focus on all the amazing sensations you’ll experience while having a go. Even if you don’t squirt, you’ll be sure to have multiple mind-blowing orgasms!
- Make sure you’ve been working on your kegels! Your kegels, also known as PC muscles or your pelvic floor, are the muscles you use when you hold in a wee. By activating and holding them, you can start to work them to be stronger and firmer and just like using weights with your presses, crunches and squats, using kegel balls can help greatly with the process of getting these muscles to strengthen and deliver you more mind blowing orgasms. Look for something like Satisfyer Balls or the geniusly designed Aneros Evi to help with your new favourite workout.
- It’s recommended to empty your bladder before getting started, but at the same time, keep yourself hydrated in the lead up.
- If all goes as planned, things may get a little messy, so use a towel underneath you, or a waterproof sex sheet like the Scandal Super Sheet or the Kink Play Sheet.
- Set the mood. Light some candles, put some Wildfire Tease oil into an oil burner, maybe read an erotic short story and, if you don’t live alone, maybe put on some background music and lock your door.
Tools of the Trade
- As mentioned above, have you favourite g-spot toy handy.
- Again, for external clitoral stimulation, your fingers will work a treat but a good sex toy will really help drive you over the edge. Try the intense Zumio X or Zumio S, the Fun Factory Volta, the pulse technology of a Womanizer Premium, or your favourite bullet. To truly ramp it up, go with what the professionals use, a strong, corded wand like the Doxy Number 3.
- Lube is your best friend. Remember, only use water based lubricants on toys. You can’t beat anything from Pjur (pronounced ‘pure’), try the Pjur Woman Aqua (or Nude if you’re sensitive) for a lube that won’t throw out your pH balance, or the lovely and thick Pjur Toy Lube.
Turning up the Heat
Ok, now you’re all ready to go, with your toys and lube on hand, music in the background, flickering candlelight and the scent of lavender and rose geranium filling the room, the crunch of your Kink Play Sheet beneath an old linen sheet. Time to get down to business.
Arousal is key, and so is patience. Take your time, caress your body, love yourself. Don’t rush to penetration. As you play with your clit, be it with your fingers or a toy, she will start to swell, both externally and internally, and the more aroused you are, the easier you’ll be able to find your g-spot and the more pressure it will be able to handle.
When you do finally go for penetration, stimulate your g-spot with firm and steady movement (the ‘come hither’ motion is your best friend here) for some amount of time, definitely longer than ten minutes.
It may feel like you have to pee, and this is totally normal. You won’t pee, so don’t worry about it.
Continuing with stimulation of your g-spot, start building up speed, either on your toy or with fingers. Remember to try and stay relaxed and not tense up. As you journey towards orgasm, steer into the skid and let yourself go by pushing out with your kegel muscles when you feel the urge to pee.
Don’t block the entrance when you finally squirt, let it all freely flow, but keep stimulating your clitoris to keep you well and truly over the line.
As mentioned earlier, you may not squirt on your first attempt, or possibly ever, so don’t be hard on yourself in this case. Just enjoy yourself and all your newfound skills.
If you need any further information speak the the consultants at the Oh Zone Adult Stores, Sydney – they will only be too pleased to assist, Good luck!