Massages have long been famed to help ease the stresses of daily life. Massages have been around for centuries and there are numerous places which offer a variety of traditional massages with draw out histories. However, there is a new type of massage which is on the block, and it’s taking the world by storm. This new type of massage is becoming increasingly popular with not only couples wishing to express their love and affection for each other, but with specialized therapists offering this service with numerous high end massage places across the globe offering this new type of massage.
The new type of massage is *Insert drum roll*
the Yoni massage. Okay, you might be a little confused but let’s break it down. The word Yoni, is derived from the Sanskrit word for the ‘vagina’ or ‘sacred place’. This type of massage is a tantric tradition that some professionals have taken years to perfect but is now being increasingly used to inspire and deliver passion between couples. It is a practice of tantric sex that has exploded onto the market and is now being offered by professional massage therapists as well!
The Yoni Massage comes from a perspective of affection and respect. The goal isn’t to necessarily achieve orgasm, though that is a by-product of this type of massage, and probably more than once in a massage. However the goal will be to easily provide pleasure and relaxation. Having no expectation of experiencing an orgasm can suggest that the participants of the massage will be able to relax and simply enjoy the intimacy and the experience. The aim of the massage is to put you in a trance of relaxation whereby you can focus on the pleasures of the mind, and the pleasures of the body in total serenity. It serves almost as a meditative tool which will see the mind open up to the opportunity of pleasure and to bring couples closer together. Yoni massage guarantees to rid our bodies of the tensions that we have a tendency to hold within our vaginas. Sound confused? I wasn’t the only one. Research and practitioners of tantric sex and sexual behaviour believe that girls store trauma and emotional pain within the vaginal walls which over time this makes us less inquisitive about sex and distances our minds from our own sexuality.
Professionals use it typically to assist women through sexual blocks and deeply rooted traumas, with some even having their vaginismus cured through the experience of regular yoni massages. When you combine this with a partner it can be viewed as a type of sexual activity that is completely safe, judgement free and has the power to re-energise our bodies and sexuality. Consider it like the pleasure of buying a luxury vibrator that is aesthetically pleasing, has great sensation and is simply beautiful. Both a Yoni massage and a luxury women’s toy providing a joy for the giver to witness and to be responsible for the women in reaching the very best states of her arousal potential.
Before The Yoni Massage begins, it’s extremely vital that a special area is made, above all this space must feel safe, welcoming and relaxing. It is an intimate and a comfortable space. Bearing in mind that Sex isn’t a part of the massage nor ought to the giver expect to receive something reciprocally. There should be a very strong emphasis on this aspect as the point of a yoni massage means that it’s all concerning the woman and therefore the focus is on healing and leaving the healed area clear for any emotions, sensations and feelings that come back up. (It isn’t uncommon for terribly powerful emotions to return up and tears may well be shed, the purpose is to travel with the emotions, and for this to be an area to feel them and express those emotions).
The Yoni is a ritual and it is an art form that is intended to benefit the mind, body and the spirit. Most massages will general begin with an undressing ritual. This ritual sees that whenever an item clothing falls to the ground the receiver of the massage will say aloud something she feels is holding her back in life. This may well be one thing like body insecurity, or shyness. Then each party meditate together, finally, the receiver will get a warm oil, full body hand massage,so that she is in as a relaxed mental state as she can possibly be. There is to be no touching of the vagina for the Yoni massage until a state of complete and utter relaxation has been attained.
For The Yoni Massage the woman should lie on her back, head raised with a soft and comfortable pillow, so she can see her Yoni and can look into the massager’s eyes. Legs are spread with pillows under the knees, so that the giver can access the entire body. There should be an explicit focus on deep breathing and the maintaining of as much eye contact as possible which should be maintained throughout the process. There should also be as little talking as possible, the woman receiving may choose to give feedback on pressure speed or depth if she wants, but the point should be that she is relaxed and succumbing to the sensations by herself. The thighs, abdomen and breasts are gently massaged and caressed to encourage a relaxed state – it is not a sexual occurrence but it can be an erotic one. Warm, high quality oil is poured over the pubic area which will fall across the vaginal region so that the outer lips of the vagina can be gently massaged. This must not be hurried in any way shape or form. Gently squeeze the lips between the fingers and the thumb and slide up and down the length of the lips. Do the same with the inner lips. The clitoris can then be stroked in various directions including clockwise and anti-clockwise circles and squeezed gently with the aim of the massage being, don’t forget, not to orgasm.
From there, slowly, the centre finger of the right hand will be inserted. The right hand is especially important as it is keeping with Buddhist traditions and tantric practices. The walls of the vagina will then be gently massaged, with particular attention being paid to the g-spot, or the sacred spot. The pressure and speed will be varied across the massage. From there additional fingers can be inserted. Again, this is not a process that can be hurried with a decent Yoni massage taking in excess of two hours. From here, the little finger can be massaging the perineum and anus if required, as well as having fingers inserted with the thumb massaging the clitoris. In this position and stance, you are said to be holding one of the greatest mysteries of life in your hand.
The remaining hand can be used to massage her breasts, abdomen and the rest of her body. There’s a lot going on here between the massage, the eye contact, the holding, the controlled breathing, the clitoral stimulation and it can be a little overwhelming for some people resulting in multiple orgasms, despite the orgasms not being the point of the massage, it is often called “riding the wave” in tantric literature. We cannot stress that orgasms are not precisely the point of this massage.
A Yoni massage will end very gently and very slowly, and if you’re a couple experiencing this together then there will be plenty of time for cuddling, kissing and holding each other. Ideally, the end result of this massage will see that the orgasmic energy will unfold throughout the entire body, and reinvigorate the energetic body, the Chakra, and connect with the heart of the individual.